It had become apparent that unless I found a way to change my subconscious beliefs, my life circumstances would continue to recur, recycle and bounce back. The people and the environment might be different, but the same types of issues would continue to arise.
‘Repetition’ is conventionally accepted and recommended as one of the major ways in which the subconscious mind can be reprogrammed. I decided to put this method into action by consciously and consistently practising different ways of behaving over and over again until they became habitual. For example, whenever I caught myself worrying about something and imagining the worst-case-scenario, I made a conscious effort to change my train of thought (by focusing on something else) or mentally rehearsing a new outcome. Rather than moving routinely through my day, I began to be self-conscious (in a good way!) of my behaviour. I began taking new actions that were consistent with who I wished to become. I observed how I felt as I moved through my day, and gave preference to the things that uplifted and inspired me, or evoked a feeling of fulfilment.
This was effective! Gradually I was becoming the type of person I aspired to be, and was beginning to experience aspects of the life I dreamed of living. I was also feeling more emotionally buoyant (that is, I was consistently in a more positive frame of mind and recovered more quickly from life’s disappointments).
However, with the research I was doing I was beginning to understand that there are now different types of processes available aimed at communicating directly with the subconscious mind which fast-forward the reprogramming process. For example, Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), Theta Healing, Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) and Tapping, to name a few.
Dr. Bruce Lipton (a Harvard trained biologist and an authority on beliefs and their influence on our biology) was very supportive in his lectures of a ‘belief change modality’ called PSYCH-K. He had used it himself and had made the bold declaration that it had changed his life. So, I enrolled in the next PSYCH-K Basic Workshop being held near where I live.
Unlike the methods I’d been using, which involved consciously observing my behaviour and using positive thinking and will power to respond in a more desirable way (until it became second nature), PSYCH-K is a belief change process. It allows the beliefs that are driving and controlling the undesirable behaviour to be rewritten. In other words, PSYCH-K deals with the core belief.
I have found PYSCH-K to be a very powerful process. It is a simple, practical step-by-step process that allowed me to change self-sabotaging beliefs that I’d held for years in just minutes. Anything I could write to describe the details of the PSYCH-K process itself would be doing it an injustice as it best to be experience in person.
Following the Workshop I spent time identifying the areas of my life that weren’t working, or that I had to work hard at. Then I set about using PSYCH-K to reprogram 10-20 beliefs a day (I kid you not). This took about an hour or two a day – I was determined and I was keen.
Part of the PSYCH-K process involves creating positive belief statements which support the changes you wish to make in your life. According to Rob Williams, the originator of PSYCH-K, getting just the right positive belief statement is the hardest part. I used Williams’ process for developing positive belief statements (as well as several that he personally created), but I also drew inspiration from affirmations created by Louise Hay and Florence Scovel Shinn.
The result: Prior to attending the PSYCH-K Basic Workshop, one of my biggest issues was a lack of self-worth. I was in the habit of putting my wellbeing behind pleasing others, maintaining financial security and my professional reputation. This meant that I often worked long hours without a lunch break (and at times even put off going to the toilet!) to meet unreasonable deadlines and expectations imposed by others. In romantic relationships I lost all sense of myself and did everything I could think of to become the perfect girlfriend. I put the needs of the relationship and those of my partner before my own. Essentially, I became the door matt.
Post PSYCH-K; my self-esteem improved. I found myself setting new boundaries, and I was finally being heard, respected and appreciated.
Like Bruce Lipton, it changed my life.
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