Fiona Tiabballs, author of Climbing Lava blog, and I sat down to talk about stepping out of your comfort zone. Below is an excerpt from our conversation:
Kylie learned the hard way that ‘following your passion’ is not always the path to happiness.
In her case, stepping out of her comfort zone career-wise seemed like the antidote for her lifelong battle with depression and anxiety.
“From early on I assumed that my emotional state was a product of my life circumstances. I dreamed of leaving the small country town I’d grown up in and moving to the city so I could finally be in control of my choices. And that’s pretty much what I did. I went to uni and picked up couple of part-time jobs. I worked really, really hard to acquire all the things that I thought would make me happy – a successful career as a radiographer, dream home, classic car, designer things, great social life and heaps of friends. Essentially, all the things that the advertising agents tell you will make you happy. But the thing is, none of these material acquisitions changed anything about my life. I was still completely hollow and empty on the inside.
“And that was devastating. I kept thinking, perhaps it’s just because I haven’t met the love of my life or I haven’t found the career of my dreams. There were no contenders on the romance front, so I decided that the one thing I could control was my career. So I went looking for something that I thought would make my heart sing. And that’s when an opportunity arose to set up a decorative metal finishes business. It felt like my destiny. So I literally took the leap of faith and left my secure and stable career behind.
“My foray into the architectural and design industry was exciting at first. Unfortunately, after six years of pouring all my resources into this business, it failed. I lost a lot of money and it broke me emotionally. What I couldn’t understand was why. My decision felt so right at the beginning. I thought it was what I really wanted to do.
“In hindsight, I realised that I’d made the all-too-common mistake of following a passion rather than my purpose. Continue Reading…
Photo by Suzy Akmen
Location: Minsara (aka The Carpentry), Makhtesh Ramon, Israel.