LEARNING TO TAKE NEW ACTIONS THAT LED TO RESULTS
The steps to take to change your reality
I had begun to understand that I couldn’t continue to repeat my old and familiar behaviours and expect different results. I realised if I wanted to experience the life that I dreamed of I needed to take actions that were in alignment with the type of person I aspired to be and the quality of life I wished to live.
In the past, my usual method of solving problems or creating change in my life was to go out and make things happen. For example, if I was unhappy at work, I’d go and get a new job (or even change career’s, which I’d done several times). If I found myself single then I would make an effort to go out more often in an attempt to meet someone new.
However, this gung-ho approach had not worked in the bigger scheme of things. Changing jobs and changing partners was not the solution to the real problem.
Audit and declutter your life
This time, I decided to take a more subtle yet thorough approach. I took an inventory of my life and then concentrated my efforts on becoming conscious of each and every action I took throughout the day. I observed how I felt about my environment and the things in it. I also observed how I felt as I moved through my day. I took note of the way people, activities, situations, objects and environments made me feel.
Then, I eliminated the activities and elements from my life that I didn’t enjoy. I minimised time spent with people who didn’t make me feel good about myself. I eliminated the things from my life that didn’t represent me. For instance, I gave away clothes that weren’t flattering or were uncomfortable to wear and donated objects that harboured bad memories.
Customise and personalise your life
Next, I began to incorporate and prioritise the things that inspired and uplifted me into my day-to-day activities. I scheduled time for doing the things I loved. I found that by consciously taking actions that brought me joy (rather than those driven by will power and discipline, such as going on a diet or starting a new exercise regime) significantly influenced how I felt.
I noticed that by taking actions with consciousness and with awareness, I could think more clearly. I developed more of a sense of myself. My inner voice began to emerge. My day unfolded with ease.
The biggest surprise? The structure of my day had begun to look a lot more like that of my ideal day.Keep Reading Chapter 5